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Resistance is Futile; Resilience is Required


I admit it: I cannot resist eating quality dark chocolate, watching the latest episode of Outlander, and being onstage.

Those things are too powerful a force for me to ignore. I MUST have them, and to fight against them is an act of folly.

However, we also try to resist the more unpleasant aspects of life -- pain, loss, doubt, fear, lack, loneliness -- hoping that if we push hard enough against them, we will emerge victorious.

Sadly, that's not how energy works. We can't push against a powerful force and hope that it will just -- POOF! -- vanish into thin air. Instead, a healthier and more effective approach is to stop resisting. Just give in to it when it is bigger than you are. Fall down. Get your heart stomped on. Cry in the corner. Punch in the air. Scream in your car. Crumble.

And then wipe the tears and gunk away from your face, get back up, dust off the debris from your face-plant, and get back to work. Figure out ONE SMALL THING you can do to bounce back. Call a trusted friend or colleague to get some advice on how to move forward purposefully. Take extra good care of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Look around for what you can be grateful for so you have the energy to tackle the tough stuff. Get help.